The Berenstain Bears
Forget their Manners
By Stan and Jan
1985 by Berenstains Inc. Published in the United States by Random House, Inc.,
Guidelines and Ten Questions
Summary: Mama Bear is fed up with the Bear family's rude
behavior so she comes up with a plan to fight the bad habits with good habits.
one deals with why manners are something we seem to forget every once in
awhile. How do we forget
them? Question two deals with how
me remember them? The question
actually deals with memory in general.
It seems as though the main way we remember our manners is when someone
reminds us. If I were trying to
remember my friend's last name, would I need someone to remind me or could I
eventually figure it out on my own?
three addresses the meaning of "fighting" bad manners. Obviously, we can't do that in a
physical nature, so then how is it done?
It is supposed to invoke a discussion on the different meaning of the
four is more of a general question of why we need manners in the first
place. It is also supposed to make
a correlation between having bad manners and no manners.
five asks why Sister and Brother Bear thought that Mama Bear wouldn't want them
to act super polite? What was the
logic behind their reasoning? They
obviously thought that having too much of someone is bad, but why did they
six and seven deal with habits. I
bet the students don't realize the number of habits they actually have. If they say that brushing their teeth
isn't a habit then ask them if there is a certain way they always brush their
teeth; that could be a habit within itself. Also, we all come from different families and different
backgrounds so we all accumulate different forms of habits. Start a discussion on the different
habits the students and the students' friends may have.
Eight discusses how habits become harder to break over time. How can things be hard to remember at
one point and become a habit (and hard to forget) at another point? An example of this would be tying a
nine asks how something could be considered a good manner and a bad manner.
Is it both meanings at the same time or different meanings at different
times? Can a manner be good or bad
to different people? The answers
the students offer should be very interesting.
question ten suggests that using good manners all the time might not be the
best way to act. If someone said
that a good manner is to let someone go ahead of you, what would happen if you
used that good manner ALL the time?
Should it be modified? This
question should lead into a lot of discussion.
1.) The Bear
Family forgets their manners
a.) How is it possible to forget your
manners? Have you ever had to be
reminded to say thank you or please?
Why do we sometimes forget?
of question 1
b.) What does it mean to remember your
manners? Is it different from
remembering names? What reminds
you of your manners?
3.) Mama Bear
says you fight bad habits with good habits.
c.) Can you really fight bad habits? How is fighting bad habits different
from fighting with a person?
d.) How do good habits fight bad habits?
4.) Mama Bear
said that manners are very important.
e.) What would happen without manners?
f.) How many times a day do you think you use
g.) If you didn't use good manners would that
mean you would use bad manners or no manners? Is there a difference between have bad manners and having no
5.) Brother Bear
and Sister Bear thought that if they were super polite Mama Bear would call the whole thing off/
h.) Why did they think that?
i.) Is it possible to be too polite?
6.) When Brother
and Sister bear got into the habit of good manners they didn't even think about
j.) What does it mean to get in the
habit of something?
k.) How do you do something without thinking
of question 6
l.) What are other kinds of habits?
m.) What kinds of things do you do without thinking
about them while you're doing them?
Do any of your friends have weird habits? Do they know they are doing them?
n.) Was there a time when you had to be
reminded to do something and now you don't have to be reminded to do it anymore
because it has become a habit? How
does that happen?
8.) It was hard
for papa to get in the habit of good manners.
o.) Is it harder to change habits when you're
p.) What type of things do you do that would be
hard to change? Would you have to
make yourself forget to do them?
Is that possible? For
example, if you know how to tie your shoes, could you make yourself forget how
to do it?
9.) Papa says
that sometimes you have to use bad manners instead of good ones (like
interrupting someone to tell them they have a leaking bottler in their cart).
q.) Can something be a good manner and bad
manner at the same time? For
example, interrupting someone to tell him or her something important? How can something be both good and bad
at the same time?
10.) Continuation of question 9
Would it ever be bad to be nice all the time? What would happen if you always let people cut you in line?